I have to say that making sympathy cards is always so hard. A friend of mine lost her mother in law and I wanted to make her a card. I went to SCS gallery and found a beautiful card using Close As a Memory set made by Nancy Riley. I had to make a few changes as I didn't have the same elements that she used. Here is a link to her card http://www.splitcoaststampers.com/gallery/photo/946681?cat=7208 and I included a link to her blog on the right.
Recipe: Stamp set SU! Close As a Memory (p 44)
Papers: Soft Sky, Whisper White, Basic Black
Ink: Soft Sky, White craft, black
Accessories: Ribbon (unknown) , Pop Dots